I have read lots of other blogs but most of them mainly talk about caring for infants and toddlers. Indeed infancy is a very complicated stage mainly because our babies can’t communicate with adults and mostly we moms are the only ones to understand the fabled language of toddlers!
But in my experience the most Dangerous stage is Pre-Teen when children interact with many new challenges in their daily life, new experiences happen in their daily lives,
Which also bring new questions to their young minds, Right and wrong, Truth and Dare, etc.
Most of all…….
Puberty, cause hormonal changes.
So the question we have as a parent is.
How do we deal with these difficulties?
When the COVID pandemic was suddenly announced, my country’s government immediately issued a lockdown. This ended up discouraging people to go outside minimally and adopting the social Distancing policy (Keeping a certain distance from others to avoid spreading the disease).
But Most of all the lockdown ended up closing down lots of public facilities,, especially schools. Now along with Financial problems with the pandemic, I ended up not being able to pay the desired attention to my kids.
Instead, I put them in the forefront of devices like iPad, Smartphones, Computers, etc. (This was my Bad)
But later I notice some “changes” in my younger son’s personality and honestly, I was a little shocked because my son is usually a very calm, shy, and obedient Child but suddenly he became slightly stubborn, violent, distracted, secretive and I even caught him swearing.
So I started to observe him calmly and when I saw he was spending most of his time in front of the computer, I needed up check just what he does on it all the time.
Surprise! it turned out he was mostly playing violent games like PUBG and GTA 5 as well watching YouTube Let’s plays in which most of the commentators didn’t mind using curse words like Oh F*** and Mother******
I started to think about How I was going to solve this problem (More like a mess) and to be frank, I wanted to beat him at first but then I realize that this wasn’t the solution.
So I started the conversation in a friendly manner and i came up with a few activities that we both could do, which in turn would keep my son occupied.
I. I started to walk with him for at least half an hour daily.
II. I invited him to practice yoga and meditation with me.
III. We play music and dance.
IV. I encourage him to write an essay.
V. We Paint.
VI. We Bake. (SUDDENLY I FOUND MY BABY LOVES BAKING)
VII. Offering him if he would like to help me in the kitchen.
I did everything I would do because I wanted him to spend the minimum amount of time in front of his computer.
At first just like any normal kid he resisted, he thought most of the activities were boring but I was adamant to keep him distracted from the computer, not fully but I wanted to create an equilibrium between technology and my kid.
I’m proud to say after two months I have succeeded but don’t misunderstand I don’t completely restrict him from devices but I watch him carefully from now on.
As well as band him from playing violent games like PUBG and GTA instead I enlisted him to join an online class of Robotics.
So in my review lots of parents face these types of problems nowadays So I advise them not to worry but to spend more time with their kids. I Don’t spend money needlessly but I play with my kids along with me helping them I want them to help me for e.g. in the kitchen(obviously the safe side) and in-home chores.
We also do yoga and simple exercises, we bake, we paint, we draw, I help him learn new words from the dictionary to improve his vocabulary so in short, there is a lot of things to do around us. in which our children will love to help.
So in my personal view, we need to think smart and solve our problems because all we know is we are responsible to build strong, kind human beings in face of our children; but we also build the next generation and our future by guiding our kids.
In my Personal view instead of enlisting our kids in some high-end expensive course or buying them expensive toys and gadgets it is much better if we instead spend time with them, not only to save our budget but this my way to improve our bond and trust with our children and spend more time with them will only grow stronger.
In this way, I didn’t have to plan how to add my kids to my time instead I ended up involving them in “my” time and schedule. I found this is the best way of success to my problem.
I hope my experience will prove useful to you guys.
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So like I said a very big responsibility and in the last these are my personal experiences and I don’t offend anyone so please be humble.
